I overheard someone answer, ‘searching for true love’ to a what-brings you-here-question. For whatever it implies, I would say don’t search for love but to make the love you have become true. Here’s what I mean; when you’ve found the person of your dream, she/he can turn to nightmare later. However, when you make your love shine through thick and thin then, your love becomes true in every meaning. People desire to have true love but how many of them are willing to show love, willing to use impressive words to pay compliment and make partner’s happiness a priority?
For those asking how can I find true love; know that to say ‘I want real love’ is complementary to you showing real love to your partner because the good from one partner brings out the good in the other partner. That’s the way to love and develop intimacy in a relationship. Also, ‘where can I find my true love’ would not be through any impressive dating profile on dating app or family/friend recommendation. You may find your wife/significant other from these dating websites but the difference is in your loving and making it come true.
So, here are signs of true love between a man and a woman, when you see or feel it as a couple, then you know that you have a rare gem – true love.
14 Signs Of True Love
True Love Is Patient
Although human beings are on different timelines and purposes in life yet you can see them being forced into things contrary to their ethics and value. True love doesn’t nag partner into doing something he/she is averse to; love gently guides and waits on the partner to make choices and still supports that outcome of the choice. True love knows when to back off; being patient means no pressure, no condition, no crowding or forcing your partner into unwanted actions.
Love Is Kind
This one should be at the top of the list if I were to arrange in descending order of importance; when you’re kind to one another, every other aspect of love falls in place. Holding yourself and putting your partner first while mad or hurting is kindness personified. Kindness in action, thought and utterances is the ultimate mark of true love; you can’t act mean while professing love.
Love Is Faithful
Love is Hopeful When you’re down and out; it’s the one who truly loves you who will stay with you giving you the hope and strength needed to make the right and necessary choice from the pothole phase of life. True love doesn’t judge you especially during downtime.
Love Is Eternal
Everything material – cars, jewelry, estate property can vanish or be retrieved from you but love endures through thick or thin. Come rain or shine, true love shines through because it’s given unconditionally. Love for someone you deeply care for never dies even when the person dies.
Love Is Not Jealous
There’s shouldn’t be any rivalry in marriage; a couple is two people coming together to work on the same platform for the same goal. Enviousness may creep in when one of the partners is receiving more attention than the other but you should know that both of you are a team; you win together or lose together, the competition is outside not inside your home.
Love Is Not Boastful
It good to bask in the glory of achievement but don’t overdo it by throwing achievements around at the slightest opportunity. Don’t also rub your achievements or how wonderful you’re when your partner is feeling down and out, it makes your achievement soulless.
Love Is Not Proud
True love is about doing things from the bottom one’s heart; don’t feel that you’re ‘God’s gift’ to your partner. Talking down on your partner or about the low-class family/friend your partner brought to the table will increase tour partner’s insecurities in the relationship.
Love Is Respectful
True love holds each other in high esteem whether successful or not. Your love for your partner or significant other boosts his/her self-esteem because you don’t talk down or disparage her/him before family and friends. You are simply dutiful and courteously not talking behind despite their obvious shortcomings.
Love Is Not Selfish
True love offers the ultimate sacrifice, and I tell you that sacrifice is very painful and yet important. When you’re in relationship/marriage; it’s no longer a me-alone-thing. It means that you should put your partner’s need above yours sometimes.
Love Is Not Irritable
Getting angry easily doesn’t solve anything but rather complicates things; makes communication awkward. True love will most times cool tension off by either going for a drive or taking a walk; anything but heat up the conflict. That necessary but momentary break allows for an increase in understanding while holding anger and repulsion down.
Love Keeps No Record Of Wrongs
Some partners are good at keeping scores and throwing a punch at typical times. When you love, you don’t remind your partner how many times she/he failed to be who you wanted them to be at the particular situation. True love forgives and forgets; it doesn’t bring old arguments/ hate words into a new quarrel, what matters is the partner’s happiness.
Love Likes Truth
Love tells it as it is; it doesn’t hide behind any façade neither does it talk ill of partner at his/her back. Love is brave enough to correct our partner when they’ve erred and still support them as they make a comeback to the right path. Love recognizes shortcomings but highlights the possibilities in overcoming them.
Love Hates Evil
True love doesn’t rejoice at evil; love will gently guide and support your choice and still love you even if the outcome of the choice is evil/wrong. True love doesn’t search for justification or I-told-you-so-moments but draws strength from making love come true in one’s partner.
Love Never Gives Up
Like the song writer and singer Celion Dion sang ‘you (love) stood by me and I stood tall”, true love is what makes us hang in and dug in the trenches. When the going gets tough; the thought of love keeps one afloat pushing through the dark tunnel to the shining light and through horrors of death to surviving the ordeal. Indeed, without love, life would be empty.
Any love below these signs is not true love; its possible your love will not reflect the above signs 100% completely. For the heart to truly and completely love isn’t a day’s journey, but it’s a continuous and necessary improvement.