Hurts by loved ones brings different levels of emotional and body pains as well as loneliness. You hurt worst from your spouse or significant other disappoints than from your siblings and friends. The pain somehow consumes and secludes the bearer who often goes on the loneliness and guilt trips. How did I let him down? What led him to betray me? How could I have been wrong? The search for answers is endless and the loneliness deepens.
Again, you may ask yourself why am I emotional? Being emotional is not a sign of weakness or craziness, but the tough question is for how long. Being emotional should not be viewed in the negative light. You are emotional because you care more deeply than your partner/spouse. You are emotional because you hold yourself to a higher expectation more than your spouse / significant other in the relationship.
The sniff of societal and internal stigma imposed on people suffering from loneliness previously makes someone consent to unacceptable behavior. People may say, ‘you hurt me but I still love you’. That may be reasonably said when both parties involved in a relationship have some agreed resolutions. It’s not good enough to consent to unacceptable behavior out of fear of loneliness because you deserve better.
7 Certified Self-Healing Tips On Loneliness
Love Of Self First
Society’s stigmatism on loneliness adds more depression to single status. Don’t accept this stigma because you are not broken, you are whole and complete. Your spouse chose the disappointing path of free will. Hence, You should find stuff that gives you completeness. You must love yourself first for love to find you; love romance will never come to the depressed and lonely.
Respect Other Relationships
When all your friends are married and life threw you this curve, don’t be over-friendly but respect their relationships. Don’t cross boundaries with spouses or significant other of your friends. This will stop the social stigma as married females feel uncomfortable with single females around their spouses.
Build Higher Self Esteem And A Stronger You.
You must never engage in bitching and cry parties because moaning about what could have been will not make it happen. No, give no time of day to that. You not lonely; you need privacy to reflect on who you are, what suit fits you, what works for you going forward. These will be the values you put on into a new healthy relationship.
Take Healthy Actions and Be Accountable For Your Actions
Don’t stay emotional over the issue far too long. Connect with (new) people and interests that give you happiness and joy because loneliness is temporary. Be accountable in the single status; don’t make unhealthy and temporary decisions just to relieve pressures.
Acquire New Interests
Move beyond your direct circle of work, home and church/study group. Foster initiatives to make yourself interesting and be able to sell yourself when needed. Try and experience something different and new, just self-improve on where you were in all aspects of your life. This new interest will drive away the loneliness, heal emotional pain and brings growth to the new you.
Live Within Your Means
You are alone now; it means that you will take care of you financially, physically and socially. Be strong and plan all expenditures which will give permanent relief to the deep issues. You must be smart to know when to stand your ground as a single person.
Avoid People Who Tell You What To Do
Ultimately, domineering people will swallow your personality. Don’t be around them as it will engulf you deeper into loneliness. These could be your immediate family and friends like your grandma, office colleagues. They may mean well in assisting to heal the emotional pain but they normally go about it in the wrong manner.
A new you with inner strength needs to emerge to make you shine, only then will you heal emotional pain and be press button ready to start a new and healthy relationship.