Sandra was asking what to do in a toxic relationship and am like run girlfriend! Realizing this and wanting to change the toxic nature of the relationship is laudable. Some partners in toxic relationships don’t realize it while others are saved through family/friends staged intervention. Getting rid of toxic relationships is easier said than done, whether it’s toxic relationship with parent, toxic sibling relationships. You‘re the author of how people treat you; if you allow BS, you get tons of it. Giving and accepting only respect ensures that your self-respect is never crushed.
Can a toxic relationship be fixed? I don’t think so and here’s why; a toxic partner cannot give what’s not there, he/she doesn’t have. They don’t know how to stop being toxic; givers give out of the abundance but when that ‘abundance is full of toxicity, there’s nothing but toxic to release. Don’t feel guilty doing what’s best for you; you should get rid of toxic relationships and be moving on from a toxic relationship while watching out for toxic relationship patterns.
12 Steps To Leaving Toxic Relationship With Dignity
Don’t Pass The Buck
You may be often tempted to blame your partner or someone for the obvious situation that you find yourself. Accept the part you played in the relationship. Although your role might not be as toxic as that of your partner /family /co-worker; all the same, pick your fair share of the buck.
Forgive Self And Your Ex In The Toxic Relationship
Don’t be hard on yourself; also, forgive your ex-toxic partner if you’re looking forward to moving on from a toxic relationship. Unforgiveness will hamper your healing and make you worse than you’re while in that unhealthy relationship.
No More Excuses
Some people stay in an unhealthy relationship because they feel comfortable, anxiety and or fear loneliness. The many poor excuses they offer themselves for the treatment they receive in toxic relationships aren’t worth it. They shy away from asking pertinent questions like do I feel good /happy in this relationship? Do I love/fear in this relationship?
Weigh Your Options Within Toxic Relationship
Maybe you gain certain privileges or things from that relationship hence you are stuck in it. As long as your toxic partner does give you life –oxygen, It’s not ok to stay in an unhealthy relationship.
Get Alternative To The Options
Here’s what to do in a toxic relationship; once you decipher what gains you get from a toxic partner, get an alternative to those ‘perceived advantages’. It’s not advisable to jump into a new relationship in a bid to get alternative to maybe father figure for your kid(s). Look for other means of supporting your lifestyle.
Don’t Stifle Your Feelings
Denying your discovered truth about the unhealthy relationship that you’re in won’t make it better. Express your feelings to your toxic partner and the reasons that made letting go of toxic relationship the better option for both.
Freeze All Contacts From Toxic Relationship
When you’re moving on from a toxic relationship make a very clean break; this is because you’re still vulnerable at that point and little interaction can push you back to the toxic relationship. At the point of leaving a toxic relationship, surround yourself with the new group of people who support the new you that you want to be.
Embrace The Love From Support Group
A support group is very key when you’re ending a toxic relationship for good. Embrace the love they offer as it helps to detoxify and ushers you into a healthy relationship path.
Nurture Your Values And Ethics Again
Toxicity has a way of rubbing one of one’s self-esteem and values. Through the urge of going back to the bad relationship, remind yourself what you can offer and that you can do better than run back to the old relationship abuse
Work Diligently On Your Emotions
Emotions run riot after a relationship break up; guard your heart (emotions) for out of it comes conflicts and cause. Don’t allow self to be drawn back to toxicity simply because of your fluctuating emotions. Yes, since those happy, sad, anxiety emotions come and go, hang in there with the support that you have.
Don’t Self- Hate Rather Self-Heal
Let go of the toxicity, shame, and bitter hate associated with a bad relationship. You may feel it’s a wasted experience but trust me, there’s something to learn in every situation and your experience will be an inspiration in someone else’ journey. That’s how you heal from a toxic relationship.
Check In With A Therapist / Counselor
If you find yourself back in a toxic relationship, it’s advisable to get into therapy because you need a stronger support group to actually walk the talk.
It will not be an easy road walking away from toxic relationships but then, it wasn’t easy walking into it and will never get better staying in a toxic relationship. So, don’t wait anymore; walk, run to a healthy love.