You can afford to take certain things for granted, but never take a woman for granted! She, giving importance to someone shouldn’t mean that she’s always free. The risk involved in taking someone for granted in a relationship is total; things taken for granted eventually get taken away by another who appreciates it. Taking someone for granted pushes her away and increases her insecurities; there’s nothing lonelier than being in relationships with people who take you for granted. You’ll expend more energy in fighting for their attention than in building a stronger relationship.
Don’t think to leave the relationship; maybe that way, he won’t take you for granted. As a woman, you may have all the traits men look for; the way you present your values marks you a high-value woman or otherwise. It’s very possible that he ’s just taking what’s readily and easily available. What men want and value are things they contribute to it. Does he know that you feel used and slightly abused as you constantly fight for him? It will pay you more to sit and have an enlightening conversation with him before closing that door.
7 Easy Ways To Erase The ‘He Takes Me For Granted’ Behaviour
Have ‘You Take Me For Granted’ Conversation.
The narcissist knows only how to take and never give; assuming you’re involved with one. If you don’t have the conversation early in your relationship to nip it in the bud, it becomes harder to elicit the desired behavior from him every passing day.
Consider Changing Something: Your Expectation Or His Behavior.
This applies when there’s a considerable number of years spent together. It becomes easier to adjust your expectations of him than to change his behavior after say, up to 10 years in the relationship. Forcing any other change afterward will suck your energy. If he’s used to taking and not giving for too long; then it’s easier for you to adjust to the fact that he will not give. In this way, you have peace and more energy to focus on other things.
Think Back: What Have You Done For Him Lately
Yea? Think hard; what have you done for him and what has he done for you lately. If answers come to you easily, then you may start weighing your options and taking a call to action. Otherwise, you need to stop feeling taken for granted in a relationship and make him know how you feel seriously.
Think Again: Do You Take Him For Granted Too
I have seen a couple that accuses each of taking the other for granted. So you could have a ‘deficit’ or ‘surplus on areas that you feel that you’re being taken for granted. Sometimes; you may be pointing a finger at someone forgetting that the other four fingers are pointing at you. Checkmate!
Make Him Miss You – Disappear For A While
Since you crave for his attention by making yourself available, he will only use it as ‘doormat through the door’. Once you’re able to change your status quo for him which he takes for granted, like being unavailable to add value to his life, then his attention will be quickly drawn to your importance in his life. Go on girl’s trip or engage in that additional community volunteer job. Just ensure you’re not alone brooding.
Don’t Fight For His Attention Anymore
Oftentimes, fighting for his attention which is a big relationship turn-off deflects energy for creating events or ambiance for a stronger healthier relationship. Since you seem to have more time on your hand, channel it into acquiring a new talent or working out more.
End ‘He Takes Me For Granted’: Launch Me-First Now
Stop teaching them that you come second because they will continue to take that soft spot for granted. Starting now, adopt a me-come-first-attitude and you’ll see the desired change coming through. It will force him to rethink his treatment and use a more loving towards you.
If there’s no change after you might have applied a few tips from above as might be relevant to you. I will encourage you to explore the entire seven easy ways to have more enlightenment. An enlightened mind will positively assist you during your call to action.