The ultimate aim of all first dates is to get a second date. Going out on first dates can happen at any stage in one’s life. Either during high school, work life or even granny and retiree stage, either way, it calls for planning to pull it through, to say the least. Pulling successful first dates need some planning and coordination.
10 Best Dating Mistakes To Avoid On First Dates
Redeem Won Coupons While On Date
Be smart with the choices you make but don’t look cheap to your first dates. Do you want to impress your new date with your living style? Don’t redeem your restaurant coupon winnings while on your first date. Your date will misconstrue you as not being appreciative. You can have lunch or dinner first dates or go hiking together. Hiking is mostly encouraged for first dates especially when turning your online dating to real time. This curbs the professional ghosting and bread crumbling on first dates.
Give Your Ex The Time Of Day
Don’t ever mention the name of your ex while on the first date except in passing when answering a question. Make your response about ex very snappy because it should not be the subject and not that key. A lengthy account of ex-while on first dates shows that you’re using your date as a stopgap. Nobody likes to be the second fiddle; your ex’s name will sour the meeting.
Live Above Your Means
You need to present a smart appearance, so, dress to impress your first date. It doesn’t call for you to go above your pay grade to make that kind of impression, at the end of the day, your act becomes obvious and the newly formed relationship gets a rift which may turn to crack if not properly checked. Ambition is good but don’t go trying new recipes on your first date night because someone is paying.
Make It A Mono Communication
A one-way conversation all about you gives your date the impression of narcissism and lecture kind of relationship to expect. Your first dates will get the whiff and take to heels and leave you wondering why the second date didn’t happen. Listen and be listened to while trying to know each other better, use your date’s contribution to modify the conversation so that it doesn’t look like an investigation or interview.
Put Your Good Foot Forward
Have you wondered why good girls fall for bad guys? Its because bad guys make efforts to cover up their flaws and seek to attract the girl first. Learn to be your number one cheerleader this time but don’t appear arrogant and a snob. Put your best foot forward because good ain’t enough, it must be the best at first dates.
Be Inactive / Passive
Even if you are shy or don’t know what to contribute to the conversation, try and make your date to feel comfortable with your contribution. This way, the silence will not be awkward and chilling. Bring up neutral current topics to discuss since you two don’t know each other while it’s risky to offend your first dates with your very strong opinions.
Appear Fake Or Unauthentic
Right from the time of walking to the table to the end of the dinner/lunch, both of you are nervous and weighing each other’s moves. Be original, be your unique you and know that that is more likable than a fake appearance. You may want to fake on your first dates till you get the commitment but trust me, you will not get far with a fake. Either the keeper gets tired during dates or the owner is busted, either one of the other.
Be Late To Your Meeting
Just like you clock in on time to work, display same timeliness to your first dates. Don’t give your date the impression that you are not organized or your date is not worthy of your respect and time. Even If there was a real-life excuse for your lateness, trust me, your first dates will never be forgotten and may be brought up at typical moments.
Shy Away From Paying
Pick up the tab, which is the best thing to do. If your first dates want to split the bill, you may want to consider that or you politely refuse and suggest first dates are paid by convener but second dates are paid by anybody. That way, you are sure of a second date as well as appear and a good teammate.
Be Bad On First Dates
See first dates to the door and possibly to their car. You may take it a notch further by trailing first dates home, just to ensure safety and accountability especially if your date night is running late. You will surely get a second date because your date knows that you caring and supportive without writing it on the napkin.
Avoid these pitfalls when on first dates and find yourself going for second and subsequent dates. You can’t miss it, trust me.