Majority experienced love early as babies from parents, so they didn’t know how to find love; love just happened to them. Thereafter, coming to a certain point in lives, fewer number experience another type of sexual and intimate love desire from others effortless. For others, to find love is tough, to conquer it involves far and wide, low and high, in and around search. But more importantly, is starting a relationship and keeping it strong enough to last the whole nine yards.
Even those that get thrills from only dating without commitment, will at some stage want to start a relationship. Each person is created differently and each species and gender are wired differently. Each person should know this basic difference and be able to use knowledge to steer the relationship. It does not mean that one should hide one’s character or natural talent due to societal assumed role play. Its just for each person to know the barrier triggers and use them positively to build a strong relationship.
So, this is not where the phrase ‘I was born ready’ applies. To find love process which involves dating and starting a relationship takes some cautious time and effort to mature. In between this time and applying efforts to find love in the relationship, being open to new values is very key. The two people involved are trying to find a unique value (themselves) which is molded from the different individuals’ values, beliefs, and ethics. Any relationship with a focus on one person’s wants is unhealthy and toxic because it underrates the meaning of the word.
7 Must-Have Tips On How To Find Love And Keep It
Keeping the relationship strong is more key despite the source of initial contact between the two persons involved. Below listed no particular order is advised on how to find love;
Make Yourself Available
Be physically there (present) and emotionally available to find love again. A relationship is about caring, sharing and loving. This has nothing to with your physical appearance although that is a good start point. As soon as one of the partners is not emotionally available, the relationship is doomed.
Table Talk Before Pillow Talk
A lot of times, failed relationships happen because boundaries were not set or clearly defined at the onset. Communicating the deal breaker in a loving manner helps to build a strong relationship. Do not issue ultimatum to your partner because even you will not tolerate being given an ultimatum.
Be Realistic And Open Up
You need to open your heart to a probably fresh hurt and pain. Are you willing to do that? Because it is only in loving fully that you are loved. Don’t hold back on giving because no two persons are same and no two relationships are similar. To find love means that you should be realistic and accept that no human can achieve the perfect ten score
Speak Out – Communication
This is different from opening up. Perhaps being afraid of similar scenes playing itself out in the new relationship, you chose not to speak at all. Well, know this my friend that you are helping neither yourself, the new relationship nor your partner to grow. Not speaking out stifles any relationship so you must speak out in a loving manner for the other person to feel you and assist in healing your scars.
You should be ready to embrace people, new ideas, and values. Don’t be stuck up on yourself because firstly relationship involves more than one person and secondly the world does not revolve around one person only. Give warmth and watch it come back to you in more folds than envisioned. Don’t carry experience from the previous relation into the new otherwise, it will crash.
Be Focused on Key Things
Many people after putting so much focus on their physical appearance pay little attention during date nights. Others are distracted with a phone or some irrelevance. More time into the relationship may help reduce such distraction but in my experience, it usually does not. Rather, start early to work on minimizing or removing the distractions and you will be thankful for that someday.
Don’t Hold Up
Be humble to know when to compromise on issues and also tender a heartfelt apology at the right time.. The troubles of an arrogant person are many and you would not want that in a relationship that you intend to keep.